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<\/a><\/p>\nBelow is a description of the game, an excerpt from our Games Night Manual.
\nThe full version, with lots of other connection-building games, is included for everyone who signs up for the ACL training.<\/p>\n
Here it is:<\/p>\n
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The\u00a0Noticing Game<\/h3>\n
Requirements: <\/strong>2 people<\/strong><\/p>\nWarning:\u00a0 <\/strong>You will both likely feel more present, playful, connected, and
\nperhaps even turned-on after playing this game.<\/p>\nDirections:
\n<\/strong>Two people stand directly across from each other, standing or sitting, making
\neye contact. <\/strong>One person is A<\/em><\/strong> and the other is B<\/em><\/strong>.\u00a0\u00a0 A<\/em><\/strong> goes first.<\/strong><\/p>\nA:<\/strong> What I notice when I\u2019m with you is\u2026<fill in the blank><\/span><\/p>\nB:<\/strong> Hearing that, what I\u2019m noticing is\u2026<fill in the blank><\/span><\/p>\nA:<\/strong> Hearing that, what I\u2019m noticing is\u2026<fill in the blank><\/span><\/span><\/p>\nB:<\/strong> Hearing that, what I\u2019m noticing is\u2026<fill in the blank><\/span><\/p>\n\u2026and so on, alternating back and forth\u2026<\/p>\n
\u2026until you\u2019re incapacitated with laughter, tears, or
\nfind yourselves passionately making out\u2026<\/p>\n
\u2026or, whenever seems like a good time to stop.\u00a0 It could be
\n2 minutes or 20 minutes\u2026\u00a0 it\u2019s up to you.<\/p>\n
YOU CAN SHARE OBSERVATIONS, THOUGHTS, SENSATIONS, FEELINGS\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\nYou can share ANYTHING you\u2019re noticing inside this structure
\nof \u201cA\u201d and \u201cB\u201d going back and forth…<\/p>\n
The other person\u2019s physical appearance:<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0* \u00a0<\/strong>\u201d\u2026the smoothness of your skin\u201d
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026the way your earrings jingle when you laugh\u201d
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201c\u2026that you seem to be looking away a lot”
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026the gap between your front teeth when you smiled just then\u201d<\/p>\nSensations in your own body:<\/strong><\/p>\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I\u2019m feeling nervous tension in my chest\u201d
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I felt my shoulders relax when you smiled just now”
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I\u2019m feeling uncomfortable with this intense eye contact\u201d
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I felt giddy and turned-on when you said that”<\/p>\nThoughts you\u2019re having:<\/strong><\/p>\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I\u2019m thinking about when we first met\u201d
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I\u2019m curious about how you got that scar on your forehead\u201c
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I\u2019m wanting to reassure you that I don\u2019t feel offended by your comment\u201d<\/p>\nEmotions you\u2019re feeling:<\/strong><\/p>\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I\u2019m scared that you\u2019re upset that I pointed out the gap in your teeth\u201d
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I\u2019m grateful that we\u2019re getting to have this experience together\u201d
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I\u2019m feeling frustrated that you keep breaking eye contact with me\u201d
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I\u2019m excited that you noticed my earrings because I made them myself\u201d
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I\u2019m feeling warmth in my chest and gratitude for you and for this moment\u201d
\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 \u201d\u2026I\u2019m having fun playing this game!\u201d<\/p>\n SOME NOTES ABOUT THIS GAME<\/strong><\/p>\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 Be willing to take risks.<\/strong>\u00a0 The more vulnerable, edgy and unfiltered, the more exhilarating and engaging this game becomes.\u00a0 This includes sharing your nervousness, attraction and even frustration!<\/p>\n\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0*<\/strong>\u00a0 Keep it in-the-moment.\u00a0 <\/strong>Don\u2019t prepare what you might say \u2013 let it unfold organically, allow yourself to be surprised by what comes out of your mouth!<\/p>\nYOU CAN FACILITATE THIS GAME FOR A GROUP…<\/strong><\/p>\nLast week I was at a birthday party where each attendee was asked to perform or share something (like a variety show). \u00a0I facilitated this game for everyone there\u2026and they loved it. \u00a0Some people were deeply moved while others were laughing hysterically\u2026\u00a0 it\u2019s a great ice breaker!<\/p>\n
Make sure to demo it in front of everyone first, then have them all pair up, choose an A and a B, and then run the game.
\nTHIS IS PART OF A FULL-LENTH \u201cGAMES NIGHT MANUAL\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\nThis is an excerpt of the full-length \u201cAuthentic Relating Games Night Manual\u201d —
\npreviously unreleased, and only available for those in the ACL training.<\/p>\n
Last day to register, the training has already started!\u00a0 Register now, here<\/span><\/a><\/span>.<\/p>\n—————–
\n<\/strong>Ok, so that\u2019s the game.\u00a0 Keep this one in your back pocket to spice up a date, a dinner party, or when hanging out with a friend. \u00a0 Give it a try!<\/p>\nLet me know what you thought of this game in your comments below…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
This little game had us both in tears the last time I played it\u2026 And the time before that, we were both smiling so much our cheeks hurt\u2026 It\u2019s simple, easy, in-the-moment, and you can play it with your lover, a friend, on a date, or with someone you\u2019ve just met. Below is a description […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-227","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/acl.authenticworld.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/227","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/acl.authenticworld.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/acl.authenticworld.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/acl.authenticworld.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/acl.authenticworld.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=227"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"http:\/\/acl.authenticworld.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/227\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":340,"href":"http:\/\/acl.authenticworld.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/227\/revisions\/340"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/acl.authenticworld.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=227"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/acl.authenticworld.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=227"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/acl.authenticworld.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=227"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
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